Do you know that what you believe is NOT true.
You only know what you know
You don’t know what you don’t know
There is a well known training cycle that starts with
This is the point just before you start to learn something. This is the place we live in most of the time – we don’t know what we don’t know. As we decide to take steps to learning something new, we move into the next stage
This is the point you realise that you don’t know anything about the subject. Then as we go through the learning process, we move into:-
When you have learned something and practising it in a very consious way, you’re having to think about what you’re doing. Then the next stage is
This is when you are doing something automatically from your subconscious without having to think about it.
A good example of this process is learning a new language – before you start you might have no idea of the complexities of the language, the structure and grammar, but you soon become aware of how much you have to learn. As you become more confident and knowledgeable, you can speak and converse, but you still need to translate in your mind before you speak, but eventually you become fluent and you don’t need to think about it, you think in the language you are speaking and this is unconscious competence.
Another example is driving – as a 17 year old, if you’re like I was, you can’t wait to start driving and you think in a couple of weeks you’re going to be zooming around the countryside and a month down the line you will have passed your test. However, when you start lessons you realise how much you have to learn and wonder how you are ever going to get it all, but as you practice, it becomes easier, but you still have to think about the process – mirror, signal, maneouvre, gears, clutch, accelerator, pedestrians, signs other traffic etc. But not long after you’ve passed your test and drive regularly, you move into unconscious competence and you just drive automatically without thinking.
You might be wondering what this has to do with belief systems and knowing when you’re right about something.
You only know what you have learned and as your brain is YOUR brain, you will tend to believe it – strangely!
You will believe what you think and you will think what you believe is the truth.
But it’s not the truth – it is just what you believe right now.
It’s the same for everyone. We all grow up with different cultures, friends, parents, experiences and influences which will form what we believe and how we view the world
If something is not working right for you in life, if you’re not living the life you really want, you either have false self limiting beliefs or there is more you need to learn in order to make the change that will put you on a different path.
The first thing I would challenge you to do is to examine and challenge your beliefs and discover some things you don’t know.
The biggest false belief holding us back is
But we don’t know we can’t – that’s just an excuse, a cop-out, a self sabotaging belief – what we are really saying is we ‘don’t know’, but we will justify whatever it is we believe and our brain will look for evidence and find it to back up whatever it is we choose to believe
So I would like to set you a challenge:
Find something you believe (a negative perhaps) that is stopping you doing something and challenge that – change it.
A common example I hear in the ‘I can’t’ category – is ‘I can’t exercise’ because ….. (bad hips, bad knee, old injury etc etc). That is global thinking that will successful sabotage any thoughts about getting fitter or healthier. The reality might possibly be that there are certain exercises you can’t do – but it would be extremely rare if you can’t do ANY exercise.
Or another example, challenge your beliefs around this
What is a healthy diet
We all have confused and false beliefs about healthy food to eat based around
a) what we want to believe and
b) what marketing and the food industry tells us this week
– a good example is low fat yogurt – is that healthy?
The food and marketing industries would have you believe it is – but compare the ingredients with full fat yogurt and you might find that the low fat version is full of sugar that the full fat version doesn’t have.
….or is that just MY belief?
You see what I mean ?!
Our view of the world is based on our own knowledge, experience and learning.
Another example for a challenge is take something you believe you can’t do or something you think you are bad at and I will challenge you to learn it.
A friend of mine grew up believing she was a little bit thick, but actually she is not thick at all and as an adult she went to University and got a 2-1 in her degree and she realised that she could learn, it just needed an interest in the subject and a desire to learn. She had been told all her life that she couldn’t by people who were an influence in her life and she believed them, but it wasn’t true at all.
I had a false belief for a long time that I couldn’t create Youtube videos, that I went to pieces and was terrible on camera – I stepped up to the challenge, I practised every day for a month and now I do it without thinking and I make 2-4 videos every week without fail.
So that’s my challenge to you –
Take a belief that is NOT helpful in your life and DESTROY it