This morning I have come out to one of my favourite beaches where I live in Gozo and it’s mornings that this that reminds me, like a smack in the face, of all I have to be grateful for, just to be able to come here to write, it is very inspiring. Living on the island was a conscious choice I made to change my life and my lifestyle 18 months ago and when I talk to friends also living here, we all get similar comments from other friends that would love to do this, but can’t for whatever reason. –
Is their reason genuine or could it be something else holding them back.
Yesterday I was having a conversation with a friend who was telling me about her brother who is desperate to come and live on the island and I asked ‘what holds him back, what stops him?’ and she said ‘I don’t know really – fear I guess’. ‘Fear of losing everything, fear of not being able to make money, fear of failing perhaps’.
Fear is the biggest things that stops us doing anything we want to. But we wouldn’t be here as humans if we hadn’t felt the fear and done it anyway.
We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t feel fear and we wouldn’t have existed if we didn’t feel fear – it kept us alive.
Fear is a natural part of life and the secret to making changes and achieving whatever you want to in like is to feel the fear and do it anyway.
Fear is a great motivator.
When you know what it is you want to do, you don’t need to know all the steps of how to get there, you just need to make the decision to make the change. This applies to anything, it could be changing job, moving on with life, it could be moving town, country – whatever it is, there is always going to be some fear because the biggest fear for all humans is the fear of not knowing.
When you do something new, you’re not going to know everything about it – how would that even be possible, it’s new! You’re not going to know all the either steps – but you don’t need to know.
There’s an analogy I like that I think explains the concept perfectly:-
Many years ago the French Foreign Legion had to cross the Sahara as part of their training, there is a path there, but it gets covered over with sand blown by the wind. So what they did was place empty 50 gallon oil drums at 3 mile intervals along the path. You can generally see on a flat surface at sea level (with the natural curvature of the earth) for 3 miles, so if you need to know which direction to walk in, all you had to do was start your journey to the nearest oil drum and you can always see one oil drum behind you and one oil drum in front of you. You can’t see the end, it’s 500 miles across the Sahara, but you can always see the next step and when you get there, the next step is revealed to you.
That’s how anything works in life, you don’t need to see the whole journey, you just need to navigate to the next step.
So, take that next step on your journey, or perhaps the first step – who know what exciting places it will lead to